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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   boots says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    SAL... you need to stop lifting large segments of your history text book and placing them in front of us when you dont really understand what's in front of you

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  2.   boots says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    This is the same old...bs you here all the time it's in vogue today White man forms an alliance with black woman... gang up on black man... tell the world how bad black man is ... then talk about how beautiful IR marriage is... at the same time always talking about finding "love" you guys want so called love at the expense of truth and justice. All you blk ladies want to take everything that this Salsassin says as GOSPEL"yall" need to do some fact checking.........

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  3.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    Myths Across the Color Line Essays on the Color Line and the One-Drop Rule by Frank W Sweet May 1, 2007 I n this context, “myths” are counterfactual beliefs taught to the young in order to exemplify social standards that they will be expected to follow in adulthood. The U.S. endogamous color line is a rich source of such myths, believed by African Americans and non-Blacks alike. Ten color-line myths follow. Some come in two versions: Black and White. Myth 1. White folks have no African genetic admixture. — In fact, about one-third of White Americans carry traces of sub-Saharan DNA from Black slaves whose descendants passed through the U.S. color line within the past three centuries to join the White endogamous group. (This is separate from knowing that the human species emerged in Africa, and non-Africans descend from a small band that crossed from Africa to Asia about 75 millennia ago.) Nevertheless, the amount of sub-Saharan DNA in White Americans is insignificant. Hence, there are two ways of looking at this, both accurate. One says that most of the DNA of sub-Saharan origin in the U.S. population is found inside the bodies of African Americans. The other says that there are twice as many White Americans as Black ones who have detectable sub-Saharan DNA. Myth 2. All Black folks have some African genetic admixture. — In fact, about five percent of African Americans have no detectable sub-Saharan DNA. This is due to the difference between ancestry and admixture. Membership in the African-American community follows family histories via the hypodescent rule: children of interracial marriages are usually seen as Black. Hence, all African Americans have some Black ancestry. But half of your DNA comes from your father and half from your mother. The other half of parental genes are lost at each generation. If a family has had much out-marriage with Europeans, it can happen by random chance that all of an individual’s sub-Saharan markers may have been lost despite known Black ancestry. Myth 3. European genetic admixture in African Americans comes from rape. — This myth comes in two versions. Some Whites say that admixture resulted from Black-on-White rape after the Civil War. Most African Americans and White liberals attribute it to White-on-Black rape during slavery. In fact, although rape has happened across the color line in both directions, the current levels of African genetic admixture in White Americans and of European genetic admixture in Black Americans match what one would expect from the number of actual documented intermarriages. Before 1691, intermarriage was routine. Before the Civil War it was nearly as common as today. The intermarriage rate fell drastically during the Jim Crow era but has now recovered beyond its former level. Also, for as long as records have been kept, Black male/White female intermarriages have been more common than White male/Black female intermarriages. In some places and times, such as 19th-century Boston, the difference was extreme. Finally, among Americans with “mismatched” mtDNA and Y markers (matrilineal from one continent and patrilineal from the other), most have patrilineal European markers, but a large minority show the reverse. Myth 4. The one-drop rule was invented to decide whether you were a slave. — In fact, the one-drop rule (that you are Black if you have any Black ancestor, no matter how distant) was a Jim Crow era phenomenon. It was first made law in 1910 Tennessee and spread nationwide over the next two decades. During slavery days, racial membership was the opposite of the one-drop rule. A person of any visible European ancestry was presumed to be free. The court cases Gobu v. Gobu, 1802 North Carolina, Hudgins v. Wrights, 1806 Virginia, and Adelle v. Beauregard, 1810 Louisiana established the U.S. caselaw that if you had any discernible European ancestry you were presumed free, and the burden was on the alleged slave owner to prove that you were legally a slave through matrilineal descent. This law was then followed in hundreds of court cases without exception until U.S. slavery was ended by the 13th Amendment. The only identifiable U.S. group that consistently advocated the one-drop rule long before it was embraced nationwide, was the African-American ethnic community, first in the northeast, then in the south after Reconstruction. White Southerners fought against the one-drop rule until the 20th century because it might tarnish old-wealth Southern gentry. They eventually accepted and incorporated it into the Jim Crow system of state-sponsored anti-Black terrorism. Myth 5. Before the Civil War, all African Americans were slaves. — In fact, about half a million African Americans were free in 1860 and about four million were slaves. The myth supports the notion that African-American ethnic traditions descend from the slave experience. But most of today’s African-American ethnic traits descend from the literate, civically active free Black communities of antebellum Boston, New York, and Philadelphia. Such traditions include the AME church, church-centered neighborhood communities, ethnic self-identity and pride, even the term “African American” and the principles of hypodescent and the earliest one-drop rule. Those traditions were forged by such men as: Paul Cuffee, Prince Hall, Richard Allen, Martin Delaney, and Frederick Douglass, of whom only the latter was ever a slave. Many families of the Black communities of the Northeast had no slave ancestry, descending from colonial African indentured servants before slavery (lifelong hereditary forced labor) was adopted in British North America. In contrast, ethnic traditions in the Lower South, where most slaves were, resembled today’s Latin America, where most free citizens were mixed to some extent, almost everyone (slave or free) was of the same ethnic self-identity, and a single sharp color line did not exist. Myth 6. All slaves were Black. — In fact, whether you were a slave had nothing to do with your appearance nor with how much African ancestry you had. Slavery descended strictly through the maternal line. You were a slave if your mother was a slave, and she was a slave only because her mother was a slave, and so forth. Thousands of genetically White (European) Americans were kept enslaved in the antebellum South because they had a distant matrilineal ancestor who was a slave. The most famous example was Thomas Jefferson’s son, Eston Hemings. Even though he was of overwhelming European ancestry, he was a slave because he had been born to a woman who was a slave at the time. But when he was manumitted by his father’s will, he took his place in the community as a White Virginian. Myth 7. Before the Civil War, all White southerners were slave owners. — In fact, some White southerners did not own slaves. This myth comes in two versions. Defenders of the antebellum South say that few southerners owned slaves. This is correct. But it is correct because only the head of each household was usually considered the owner of all the family’s slaves, and most people are not the heads of their households. Detractors of the antebellum South say it the other way: “Most southern households owned slaves.” This is also correct, but the bulk of southern slave-owning households owned only one-to-three slaves, fewer families owned more than that, and only wealthy families owned entire plantations of slaves. Myth 8. All slave owners were White. — In fact, many slave owners were of mixed Afro-Euro ancestry. This myth also comes in two versions. Confederate defenders say that hundreds of Black people owned slaves. This is incorrect. As of 1830, 474 wealthy biracial families of the South Carolina elite owned 2,794 slaves (about one South Carolina slave in a hundred), but they were not considered socially “Black.” Similarly, in 1830, 967 families of the French-culture Gulf coast gens de couleur libre owned 4,382 slaves (about one Louisiana slave in twenty-five). Seen another way, of the 1,834 Colored Creole households in 1839 New Orleans, 752 of them (41 percent) owned at least one slave. Again however, those families were not considered socially “Black” (a term applied back then only to people of unmixed African appearance). The Black version of the myth says that the only African Americans who owned slaves were those who purchased their own wives and children in order to protect them. Although this sometimes happened in Virginia after 1830, when manumitted slaves were exiled from the state, it is incorrect overall, as can be seen in the number of slave owners and the numbers of slaves recorded above. Some of the wealthiest and most famous slave owners and slave traders in the South were of mixed Afro-Euro ancestry. Myth 9. Black soldiers fought for the Confederacy. — In fact, no Black soldier ever legally fought for the Confederacy. To the very end, the Confederacy enforced a national law forbidding Blacks to serve as combat soldiers. (They could serve as musicians, teamsters, and laborers.) The law was repealed in the last few days of the war but to no avail. Again, there are two versions of the myth. Confederate defenders imply that the biracial slave owners of South Carolina and the Gulf Coast who fought to defend slavery were Black. This is incorrect because they were not legally Black. They were seen as Coloured, biracial, or White with some Black ancestry. On the other side of the myth, some African-American re-enactors point to the Black regiments of the Corps d’Afrique of Louisiana who asked to be mobilized into the Confederate army, along with the other state regiments. But they were turned away due to the law mentioned above. Then they applied to, were enlisted in, and fought throughout the war as regiments in the Union army. Myth 10. If it were true, I would already know about it. — The most destructive U.S. color line myth is that if a little-known fact were true, then everybody would already know it. As one person said: “Your claim that some Blacks were free before the Civil War is ridiculous. If it were true, it would be trumpeted to the skies. In my whole life, my entire life, I have never heard of such a thing.” — Written by a 15-year-old participant of an online discussion group. At one level, ignorance of the nation’s history is understandable. K-12 schools cannot teach all of America’s past. Children and teachers cover an overwhelming amount of material. So whenever school boards discuss curricula, they must decide what to leave out. And they often decide that history-teaching should aim for citizenship skills, specifically, to teach those myths that students must learn if they are to function in U.S. society. Once they can function as citizens, if any of them want to learn the detailed facts, they can do it in college. At least, that is the rationale. At another level, ignorance breeds more ignorance. Most people do not take college history and so they go through life thinking that what they learned in K-12 is all there is. In The End of Blackness (New York: Pantheon, 2004), Debra Dickerson tells a story of when Senator John McCain was informed that his great-grandparents were slave owners. He was dumfounded. According to Dickerson, although McCain often talked about how his ancestors had fought for the Confederacy and that they owned plantations, it had never occurred to him that they owned slaves. When non-scholars suddenly learn historical facts in adulthood, many assume that their ignorance results from a vast conspiracy, rather than from their own lack of diligence. Dickerson, who repeats many of the above myths, explains her own prior ignorance by saying that, “whites cannot allow themselves to know their unbowdlerized, unexpurgated history.” But the facts are available in any college text or monograph to anyone who takes the time to read. She should have said, “not teaching kids historical facts during K-12 is harmful to society.” But being ignorant of college textbooks and then accusing them (which the person has not read) of falsification is the worst myth of all.

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  4.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    tamn8ercl, indeed, he is a lucky man.

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  5.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    @Menelik, Good to see you, Sir. I didn't see you earlier because I had to unscribe to this blog. I couldn't take anymore of a certain blogger's posts filling my email.

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  6.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    @BE I agree. Hell a lot of black men aren't married either so it's not just us. lol

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  7.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    Nice articles Bama.They tell the truth but offers hope and solutions instead of just the down sides.

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  8.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    I like this article too http://www.nypress.com/blog-4036-black-and-white-dating-black-women-white-men.html

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  9.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    Queenie you should read this article. You are going to LOVE IT. guarantee it. Maybe queenie the question you should be asking yourself is why can't YOU find a good woman or in fact why can't you keep one? Is it always the way the people that have no one in their lives like you, can't find a woman and damn sho don't know how to keep one but you always the one trying to tell the rest of us how we should be living when you living fowl yourself. Oh and Queenie THANK GOD YOU AREN'T INTERESTED IN ME!!!!! If I turn you off then Thank you Jesus just tell me what else I need to do to keep you AWAY from me. LOL Enjoy the article ya'll. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sophia-a-nelson/the-strong-educated-black_b_421548.html

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  10.   tamn8ercl says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    @ Mr Laurelton Queens LMAO @ sell out Black woman. Am I a sell out Black woman? I love my White husband very much and he loves me. I'm not unmarried like 40% of Black woman because I met my perfect mate and had to ignore that he wasn't Black. That wasn't easy as we both have a prefrence for our own race. It was just love. Firt time swirl for us both. I married at 35 and I should've waited until I was 45 to marry. I know I can't have kids at that age but I should've passed on the love of my life and having children just so some buffoon on the internet won't call me a sell out. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA P.S. Was once married to a Black man in college. It didn't work out because he cheated. Not because he was a bad guy...we were just too young. Look at all this goodness he's getting. http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b397/tamn8ercl/tril.jpg http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b397/tamn8ercl/6176_1175544822248_1036902982_30572.jpg http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b397/tamn8ercl/DSCN0653.jpg HA!

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  11.   Member says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    (Looking over Bama) I have sense of humor Big eyes. Queen Latifah, god bless her "little heart". She is mentioning her "own life" as the example for ALL black women. The problem with her statement is where is she going with these "two white men"? Yea you can get "a lot of dates". Ultimately, the goal is a "NBA ring" (wedding ring). Nobody cares if you can drop 50 points in a game and "lose". Sorry, I am a basketball fan. I like to use analogies. Now the "slut" word. Perhaps, that was "harsh". I would have used another word like "money hungry". Loose booty was taken by "Tatt". I ran out of words to 'call you". I am sorry, I mean to keep that "comment in my head". It was just an instant reaction to calling you "slut bucket". I shocked myself by that statement. You are the type of woman that has a "good job" but constantly "spends the next man's money". This type of behavior is quite common in some "Southern women". Some are "graceful" about it. I am pretty sure Queen Latifah" plays the "damsel in distress very well". Queen Latifah said this.............. "Make up your mind son and stick to the point, in fact make a point. My theory has been most white men are interested in black women, history shows us that. But most are afraid to make that move because of two things: A)afraid of what society would think or B)afraid of being rejected." Essentially, you are saying white men are to cowardly to get involved with black women. You mention white men have desired you through history. Was it after the slavery whipping or before. "Massa" raped you so he "desired" you. What are you rambling about 'Sweet Alabama"? Please stick to the topic. You are starting to swim in the "deep" part of the pool with this "history' stuff. Dip your "toes" in the shallow part of the pool. Sal might have to google some stuff for you. Google is like his best friend. Don't laugh Big eyes. I really haven't seen someone obsessed with google? No wonder he does not have a black woman. (Getting a headache) Now I remember when I was reluctant to get involved with "country black women" like Queen Latifah. Why would you want to be with cowardly white men????????? AND you are giving advice to other black women! That is like 'Ray Charles" being a crossing guard at the local elementary school. It just does not make any sense!!!!!!!! (Closing the door)

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  12.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    @ Mr.L.Queens Look, I KNOW you are making of fun of me and count me as a sellout black woman just like the rest of 'em. I have NEVER expected anything else,lol. Now, I know I'm going to be accused of "swinging from your johnson 24/7" as it was so lewdly and crassly put, but I can't help it,you absolutely crack me up,LOL. I think because I don't take myself so seriously. I was WONDERING WHEN you were gonna let me know I had been dropped,LOL. Maybe some will be happy now since they will see this a you "cutting the apron strings",even though they were never there(wants you hate me so bad,lol). Anyways, you make some valid points about the numbers though;maybe the numbers will change for the better,maybe they won't, but I do have faith that some of us are working hard to change our image and take responsibility.

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  13.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    Civil but misinformed conversation. Didn't you just call me "slut" because I have two white men interested in me and I'm a full-figured black woman? Isn't that contridicting what you said earlier? So which is it? White men aren't interested in full-figured women or they are? Make up your mind son and stick to the point, in fact make a point. My theory has been most white men are interested in black women, history shows us that. But most are afraid to make that move because of two things: A)afraid of what society would think or B)afraid of being rejected. As the years roll by and people become more accepting, you see more white men become more open to dating and or marrying black women. We as black women just need to be more receptive. Although, I will say Interracial dating is not for everyboy, I told one of my black gf's that last week. You have to willing to open yourself to something new and understand not everybody (queens) will be accepting of the life you have chosen for yourself.

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  14.   Member says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    (Eating popcorn) I leave for a minute and look what happens. I am not even going to address Sal and his multiple black women he hides from his Latino Wife "allegedly". (Smiling) Latino men notorious for staying "within" their race. LOL That is another subject for the "Mail". Let me address Mssexy................................ I am not going to disagree or agree with you. People do have an impression of you when you voice your opinion. I merely counter the arguments people make on this board. They say " I twist" their words. Show me where I twisted their words unless I was being "sarcastic". They bragged about using "two men". How can you twist that? They said "they shut down black men" from the safety of their computer. I never tried to be a "Latino" tough guy womanizer. I have been in "long-term" relationships with black women. The same people that accuse me of "certain behavior" do the same thing. They just point the "finger" at me because I am more vocal. Let me just just touch on some of your points respectfully. You said this... "I just recently started reading this and i think that Mr Queens is very interesting. Have you noticed that every time a black female makes a comment staying the opinions of and African american male, that he makes it know that we dont know what the black man is thinking." Thank you, because I find you equally interesting aside from the misconceptions about me. If black women KNEW "what black men" were thinking, there wouldn't be this great "valley" between us. Even my "detractors" on the board will tell you there is tension between black women and black men. Numbers don't lie concerning the dating struggles of black women. You also said this, thus "backing up my point" " Love especially real love is hard to find whether its same color or different and if you find it regardless of race you embrace it and hold on to it. How dare you say that a white man is not capable of loving and caring about a black woman the way a black man can. If in this great big world a person is lucky to find the person they connect you should applaud it. right now statistics say that 40 % of black women will never get married. Its because of this mindset, that if i cant find a black man then i can not be happy or whole" (Putting my drink down) How dare I say white men are not capable of loving black women? Well, they did a yahoo online dating article. The same thing with E Harmony. From my understanding, black women fell in the 7 percent. White men rather be with "white women, Asian, or Latin woman" before a black woman. 4 percent of you are currently married to white man. That is atrocious. (Standing back and looking at the numbers"). Could it be white men "are not all that interested in black women". What other theory can it be???????? This is all facts. (Putting my hand on my head) Ask Sal to google it. You also mention 40 percent of black women will never be married. So if white men were interested right, shouldn't that statistic start coming down from the 40 percent? Don't let the "smoke and mirrors" fool you on this board. Most have an "agenda" and it is to keep you "worried and desperate". These "men" here, who supposedly, got "love for black women", they color struck too. The same way black men are "accused" of being color struck. Look at what they did to "tatt". I like "tatt" but they dropped her ass and ran to "Big eyes". After that, they moved on to "Tricc". (Throwing hands up). They need to thank me for getting the black women out to this board. Sal is happy because he gets to add to "his harem" of women but promoting another website for them to "meet him". His "little suggestion" of black women to go to another site. Ambulance chaser is a slick immigration lawyer. White men will not date full figured black women. They said "it" themselves. Ask some of them in the room. Black men marry black women more than any "other group". These are facts. Black men pick black women "first" consistently. Actions speak louder than words. My blog is THE TRUTH! (Waving at Big eyes) You have a nice day. I am always happy for civil conversation. http://mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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  15.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 10

    Damn, some real good posts lately. Mssexysapia, great post. Just one correction. European people DO have melanin. Just not in the same degree as most African people, ON THE SKIN. They are not Albinos. Lighter skin developed in regions where vitamin D wasn't processed as well because of lack of sunlight. And in regions where sunlight varied a lot because of the season, tanning developed. Tanning is a regulatory process to supply melanin as needed. Now ALL humans have neuromelanin to the same degree. So when you hear comments like "Whites don't have melanin," tell them they are full of shit. Rooster, you are funny. But I am going to be a ball breaker and tell the truth that hurts. One, Asians aren't a monolithic group, so all Asians do not have the same physical proportions. But it is true that there are Asian populations that have smaller penises, erect or flacid. That is just nature. The women of those groups also tend to have shallower vaginas and less behind. Length in males is directly proportional to depth in women. I have found Asian and Latina women I literally could not fit fully in, and I am of average length. There are also Asian populations that do not have small penises. I will make you a bet that the bigger the booties you see in the females you will also notice longer penises in men. Of course I am talking in the extremes, but this is the truth. Necessity develops change. In Europeans and Africans most studies have shown that in the majority of the respective Bell Curves, Europeans and African overlap. That is, they have similar length and girth. When you go to the extremes of the bell curves, there is a slightly higher percentage of African males who have longer penises, and in Europeans there is a slightly higher perecentage of shorter penises. We are speaking in the 10 to 15% percentile. The opposite is true in girth. Europeans in the extremes tend to have it thicker than Africans. And yes, Europeans tend to enlarge more during erections, while Africans tend to have more length during flacidity. There was a long study about it a while ago. Basically because sexual myths were rampant. Also, while there can be people with proportions that don't match height, the average rule is still that the taller you are, the larger overall you are. Body proportion. You are rarely going to find an Asian the size of Yao Ming with a micro-penis. Hey, just the fact. Have at it. Me, I am happy with my average size. Women I have had experiences with (I am just going to laugh to death when Queens goes nuts with this) have never complained about me being too small. But, like I said before, is some cases I have been too big, and that sucked beyond belief. I do not envy guys who frighten girls or who have to have sex only partially putting it in all the time. Talk about a perpetual tease. And I know some guys like to do that, but I'm not into giving a woman pain, so I am not trying to put it in farther than when the woman starts saying it hurts her. JMHO.

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  16.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    Oh and if you not watching millionaire match maker, please do. If not else for anything else then for the the shit and giggles factor. lol I love it

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  17.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    @BE I might have to do that chick. :) Thanks.

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  18.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    @Menelik Never said I wasn't being approached, just not what I'm looking for. Good for you though. @Salsassin Thank you so much for your insight. I signed up for one of the meetup.com groups of my interest near houston and I'll be attending my first one on Sunday! If not for you, I wouldn't have ever known about this, thanks again. @Bama, try this in your area. I checked out some groups in my old town just for giggles. I think you might like it.

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  19.   Member says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    @ the ladies, you know, it always surprises that have difficulty hooking a man. Women get approached in all and every situation. I met my partner in a public library while her head was stuck in some books! Daring? No, just doing what men do! Menelik Charles London England ps hi bro Ich!

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    i really dont understand what the hang up is about white men dating black women or latino dating black people . i have been involved with black women since i was a kid it feels natural to me that i being a white man dating a black woman - it is so natural to me its like breathing oxygen ineed it to live -samegoes for black women i need them to live so all those people hate white men who date black women i feel soory for you because you really dont know what your missing - black women are the sweetest kind of women on the planet

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  21.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    i had mine held once too but I assumed because I signed in room. maybe they starting to read some of the post and decided to do some censorship on certain people.

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  22.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I think the people who post a lot are having their posts held for moderation. I first got that message after I noticed many of my posts were being deleted a few weeks ago.

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  23.   Member says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I am tired of Black & White Men defining beauty! I am tired of Women defending their narrowmindedness! I am happy being a Happy! Healthy! Human Being! The White Man will never admit to his jealousy of the Black Man & The Black Man will never admit to his anger with the White Man for painting him as inferior! I refuse to be a pawn in their tug of war! Sign Me Off- A Happy Black Woman! with a Crazy Black Man! LOL!

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  24.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I'm with you BE I've pretty much given up on this site except for the blogs. I've had more luck on other sites then on here. But I would say I'm looking for someone who is attractive,funny,intelligent,spirtiual,honest and attentive.

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  25.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    Try meetup. I have gotten plenty of friends hooked on the site. And whenever I travel for a few weeks, I look up local meetups to see if anything fun is going on.

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  26.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    yes,I got that,lol.

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  27.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    Mine is still awaiting moderation as well. I just retyped it while modifying the links so that they weren't links anymore. But you can still get to them.

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  28.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I have pretty much given up on THIS site anyways except for the blogs.

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  29.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I'm looking for someone who makes me laugh. Who does most of the talking when we first meet and then let's me,...ha. He has a job, cute, christian, catholic, protestant,etc.,loves Star Trek, likes to travel,no adrenaline junkies though, and has a decent body. The awaiting moderation comment only seems to appear when I hyperlink,oh well. I think I will try those suggestions,good looking out.

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  30.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    No, mine don't go through all the time. Your comment is awaiting moderation. So anyway, Ladies, what do you expect to find here? I am curious. While I did end up meeting some cool people on here which are good friends, I don’t know if this is the best place to meet someone when you have a huge chance that the person is looking for a stereotype. You are going on profiles that say what they supposedly do, instead of looking in places where those activities occur, and bumping into men there. I’m not saying that you should stop trying here, but explore event sites. You will meet a lot more like minded people. w (w) w (dot) m e e t u p (dot) c o m DO a search for your favorite activities, or for what you were always chicken to try. Then go meet new people, and you will surprise yourself with who you connect with. Two good friends of mine on Sky is the limit. a t l a n t a (dot) s t l a d v e n t u r e s (dot) c o m One a White Georgian, the other a lady from Africa, neither ever having dated inter-ethnically before, met each other doing common events and found out they met their match. Just a thought.

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  31.   Mssexysapia says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I just recently started reading this and i think that Mr Queens is very interesting. Have you noticed that every time a black female makes a comment staying the opinions of and African american male, that he makes it know that we dont know what the black man is thinking. Yet time and time again he seems to be "getting into the psyche of the black woman." So basically we as black women cannot possible comprehend the vast mind of the black man. But because black women are so "simple" and he is so far superior he can summarize the lot of us into one sad and pathetic category. What more Mr queens is so far superior to everyone else in intellect that he now can not only speak for inferior black females but he now has the market on what white men are thinking as well. You truly do fascinate me. No one knows better than you do. When others throw valid arguments all you manage to do it spin them around and turn it into a black woman is ignorant and cant possibly comprehend. Well dear i am sorry to tell you but you stand alone. Sure you have a right to your opinion. And i applaud that, but at times you speak as if you just want to hear your self talk. You rhetoric is that of the past. Not everyone agrees with me for dating white men, but i have that right, and i have the right to do as i choose without being looked down at as being ignorant or a sell out. Last time i checked i was a living breathing, thinking rationale adult who can make my own choices. As someone said earlier, who died and made you God to tell me that what the person i love, because they lack Melanin, its wrong. Love especially real love is hard to find whether its same color or different and if you find it regardless of race you embrace it and hold on to it. How dare you say that a white man is not capable of loving and caring about a black woman the way a black man can. If in this great big world a person is lucky to find the person they connect you should applaud it. right now statistics say that 40 % of black women will never get married. Its because of this mindset, that if i cant find a black man then i can not be happy or whole. Love is love plain and simple. If a person can find and attain the real thing, then love whether its within your race or outside can withstand anything and everything. Even know at all with messianic complexes like you. FYI a Black woman is strong, determined,opinionated, a survivor, and the fact they have to put up with men like you puts them at the top of the list.

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  32.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    oh yes I have seen them together but I thought they were already married...bit of foreshadowing then,lol.

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  33.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    Well you know Mr. Big, Chris Noth is about to marry his black gf.

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  34.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I think he's cute,LOL. I think he's actually jewish too. Oh yes I forgot about Eve and Serena williams, you probably already know about her though. Robert De Niro, Tina Turner,Even brad pitt has dated sisters;I always suspected him,lol, he has features and bone structure similar to a black man's to me,lol. OOh them lips ha ha. I'm a christian but I ain't dead,LMBO(laughing my butt off)

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  35.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    I didn't know Eve was engaged to a white man? Where have I heard of Shane Powers before got to look him up. @BE Girl Matt looks much better now then he did back then. And his wife looks very classy and beautiful.

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  36.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    ok what's going on? Why was his link accepted right away and mine wasn't???My link is being moderated,wt??LOL who cares as long as it can be googled.

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  37.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    Erica Dunlap (Miss America 2004) & Husband, Brian Kleinschmidt Suzan Lori-Parks (Pulitzer Playwright & MacArthur Award winner) and Husband, Paul Oscher (Award-winning Blues Guitarist) Eve (Rapper) and fiance, Shane Powers (Actor) Stacey Dash and husband Emmanuel Xuereb A ton more here http://www.blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com/

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  38.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    Just google Matt Stone and Angela and it should come up right away a picture of them. She is a beautiful black woman who got her a good one,LOL.It shocked me too. go on and make that list;you will be surprised at how many there are:-)

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  39.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    Girl see I learned something new. I want to make a list of all the famous bw/wm relationships.

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  40.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    LOL my other comment with the hyperlink of their picture is awaiting moderation because of the hyperlink. No he doesn't have cancer but he is married to a sister and he isn't broke, a criminal, he's talented and attractive. It's just an example of an interracial marriage that some seem to think is so rare and unlikely.

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  41.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    LOL, no I mean they are a good example of a successfully married interracial couple between a caucasian man and black woman,something that people seem to think is so rare. http://www.google.com/url?sa=D&q=http://www.blackgirlsrockit.com/2008/12/married-matt-stone-and-angela-howard.html&usg=AFQjCNEgU-WXwIHAc80_02DFhuUWJsH4Iw

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  42.   Bamababe2k9 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    @Bigeyes Matt Stone? Did he have cancer and is he married to a sista?

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  43.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 10

    @Bamababe Yes, Robert Ebert and his wife are a good example but also Matt Stone one the two creators of the notorious show South Park.[URL=[http://www.blackgirlsrockit.com/2008/12/married-matt-stone-and-angela-howard.html]orious South Park.s show South Park

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  44.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    Dear Sal I don't duck any question you ask me. By the way how is you're wife or girlfriends doing? Oh yea, you are pleading the fifth. You must be a "public defender" or immigration Lawyer. Just tell people what you are about. This is not the courtroom lol. Pleading the fifth on what exactly? You damn "Spanish rice eating" prick. LOL This is not "Law & Order". All you do is interpret the law to "Spanish" speaking illegal immigrants". Some low income Spanish girl with no visa you take advantage of is impressed by that. Maybe, even a black girl with a "nursing certificate" might be impressed. You don't fool me. (Shaking my head) This does not make you a man! I will be back. (Closing the door)

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  45.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    Sal You're wife is coming home or girlfriend?. You better leave. Take it easy. Hope to see you on my blog again. LOL I hope she finds a white man to be with. LOL No, I really mean it. I got nothing bad to say about her. I am a "STAR" and she is not moving in "my direction". I mentioned this on my blog quite often. I have been dumped before. But I cut her loose, she was really on "thin ice" already. I could have done that Valentine's day. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She said " Oh you talking to "N***". I said you are in no position to question me girl. LOL See, I am done talking about it for now. By the way the woman from Florida is not Mrs "Kitty". See, I am not the bad guy. I gave her enough rope to hang herself. She knew I liked another girl in "Florida". We previously met in New York when I first wrote my blog. She wanted to meet the "Blog Legend" Laurelton Queens. So I took her to the movies and dinner. But, I put that off trying to be "loyal" to the game. I won't go into any further. I do my writing on my blog like I said. There are plenty of black women to choose from. Now go back to you're "two white men", who clearly are not even "serious" about you. Look for " IF TOMORROW COMES FOR SELLOUT BW" AND THE FOLLOW UP ALBUM 'THE DAY AFTER TOMORROW FOR SELLOUT BW". (Laughing)

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  46.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    OK, OK last one. I PROMISE!!! :) Did you mean Why are you still ducking the question or did you mean why do you keep ducking the question? You are the one who studied criminology, so investigate. I am the one who studied law so I plead the fifth. :)

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  47.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    @ tamn8ercl I know, I know. It's just, he is so easy!! OK, OK. I'll behave. I'm out.

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  48.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    (Eating popcorn) I have degree in Criminology. I never said criminologist. Now are you married, engaged, or have a girlfriend? Why are you keep ducking the question?

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  49.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    Yeah, Roger Ebert is a great example. So Queen got dumped. LOL. No wonder he has become active again. She must have left him for a White guy.

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  50.   tamn8ercl says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    @Sal Really Sal?!?!?!?!?! Again with this idiot?!?!? I see we have something in common. Can't walk away from someone who is begging for a kick in the ass without helping them out with their request. Try, love!!!!

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