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Matthew Hussey: Do's and Don'ts for Your First Date

Posted by Christelyn, 10 Dec

Matthew's at it again with a few gems of advice to prep you before you go out on that date. Matthew suggests:

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  • Don't take too long to get ready for a date. The longer you prep, the more nervous you get.
  • Get physical right from the start. Give your date a hug, a high-five, a touch on the shoulder.
  • Let him be the man. Let him feel needed and chivalrous.
  • Don't spend time worrying about awkward silences. Let the silence pass without worrying about filling the space up.
  • No complaining! No whining! Make a positive impression and don't moan about your life. Remember you're selling yourself!
  • Laugh through the date. It's a great way to break the tension. Guys like women that make them feel funny. He'll have more attraction for you.
  • Let every part of your personality shine through.
  • Don't talk about your ex! Even if he asks, he really doesn't want to know.
  • Make eye contact. When he's speaking, stare deeply into his eyes.
  • Make the date short and sweet. Leave him wanting more!
  • Most importantly, RELAX!

Matthew Hussey is a renowned dating expert and author. His latest dating book Get The Guy is a New York Times bestseller. He's the go-to relationship expert for Rachael Ray, Katie Couric, Ryan Seacrest, Meredith Vieira and many others. And he's a relationship columnist for Cosmopolitan magazine and the resident love expert for "The Today Show." Here he shares his proven strategies to get a man to do anything you want, from tirelessly pursuing you to treating you like a goddess to committing to you for life.

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  1.   Manhlie says:
    Posted: 10 Mar 18

    Great advice indeed

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  2.   Nonhle69 says:
    Posted: 10 Mar 18

    (For)

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  3.   Zoonira says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 18

    Nice guidance to get a good relationship.

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  4.   CB549bucks says:
    Posted: 19 Feb 18

    I gat it brother, thanks for the tip

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  5.   sexyhairey says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 18

    Nice advice. Thanks

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  6.   OrangeMoonI says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 17

    And be your wonderful self. Nice tips.

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  7. Posted: 22 Nov 17

    thanks for the advice

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  8. Posted: 06 Oct 17

    Hi I'm single want really love really life

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  9.   Kawda says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 17

    haha thanks so much for the tips brother

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  10.   Ruthcute says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 17

    They are really great and enlightening.. thanks Matthew.

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  11.   kahm123 says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 17

    Hi am a nice guy looking for a right relationship a right lady lovely beautiful

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  12.   Trini60 says:
    Posted: 26 Apr 17

    Great advice

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    • 22chris says:
      Posted: 11 May 18

      Hello Trini I just looked at your profile...first yo are beautiful and I like your words of who you want as a man...God fearing is the key to a successful relationship..but I must confess I like you

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  13.   Dorcas31 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 17

    I hope to find my dream men here, someone who well make me happy forever.

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  14.   joansony.7 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 17

    i hope to find my dream man here..n some one who shares the same chemestry

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  15.   nadia80 says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 17

    am 36 and am looking for much between 38 to 50.

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  16.   Belek says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 16

    I need audience with you

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  17.   jokase says:
    Posted: 07 Dec 16

    Thank you for the tips

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  18. Posted: 01 Dec 16

    I love this article! Looks like I don't have any issues in this department.

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  19.   babyne says:
    Posted: 09 Nov 16

    thanks so much matthew for the tips.

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  20.   shacelisa says:
    Posted: 18 Oct 16

    Thank you so much matthew for those tips .such kind guesture

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    • marie7i says:
      Posted: 05 Apr 22

      Nice tips ..the problems is I didn't have any date yet so I can experience.

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  21.   Humblecandy says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 16

    Thanks for the tips math

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  22.   Ugann says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 16

    Any one who's serious place email me flove2383@gmail.com am black African I need white lady , if your not white please don't text me.Thanks

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  23.   Ugann says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 16

    True love will never end .

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  24.   salma12 says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 16

    Thanks Matt for the tips :)

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  25.   Marveez says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 16

    One step at a time. ☺

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  26.   Samkethe says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 16

    Thanx Matt.

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  27.   Romwels says:
    Posted: 08 May 16

    Noted and appreciated

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  28.   Faithlo211 says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    Thank you!!!

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  29.   shillameg says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 16

    Thanks for the advice I will keep it in mind I need a matured christian man

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  30.   lumbanji says:
    Posted: 12 Mar 16

    I want a man to settle with for my life time

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  31.   Janesty says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 16

    Thanks for the advice. I'll try not to mess up my date. :) Thanks.

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  32.   mdota says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 16

    Hi iam here waiting for my soul lover to meet her wl be the happest thng in my live

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  33.   whitcap says:
    Posted: 22 Feb 16

    I want a date with a guy ,i want a man for a long relationships am lonelly pliz Asist me pliz

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  34.   whitcap says:
    Posted: 22 Feb 16

    I want a date with a guy

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  35.   Gha-gha says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 16

    Thanks for the advice,,i hope i can meet here so that i will show how i love him true.

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  36.   k.kalovela says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 15

    Hi every one.

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  37. Posted: 02 Dec 15

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! Coming from a man makes all the difference in the world. Why? Because it is quite obvious that guys and gals are different and have different needs/desires. And yet they have similarities as well. I guess it is all about letting balance happen freely- naturally. I knew about the whiny part and the ex part. Hell. I'd find that to be a downer myself. I think another thing is very important, actually 2. They are over thinking and not reigning in overly high expectations. We would all have expectations but it's when they get out of hand is when they pose the problem of disappointment because we are imagining what we WANT, not what is. Overthinking just causes stress which, somehow, always is able to be seen or heard. No one wants to be pulled "down". Would I be nervous. Oh yeah. Especially since I haven't even dated in 13 years. But I also realize I am probably more of a woman now than 13 years ago. I was attractive 13 years ago in a different way yet all these years later I am still attractive in another way. But what's really attractive is what, how, and who I am.

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  38.   leeta46 says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 15

    Great advice, thank you

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  39.   Hotboxxx says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 15

    Hi every 1

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  40.   RajeRa says:
    Posted: 31 Oct 15

    Love is god love blind .I like love .Some one love I have no girlfriend.

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  41.   Oladavid says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 15

    Love is easy to spot when we find true love

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  42.   Oladavid says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 15

    Love is good

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  43.   waridi1985 says:
    Posted: 04 Dec 14

    Where is my king

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    • ict says:
      Posted: 27 Mar 16

      Oooo dear queen your king is here waitin for u. Herrrrrr very nice lady cant stop lookin at your pic

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  44.   gigi4640 says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 14

    sounds good to me

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  45.   ACAALI says:
    Posted: 19 Jul 14

    wonderful advise

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  46.   Teri106 says:
    Posted: 18 May 14

    Thank you for the great advice.

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  47.   Bishp says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 14

    Good advice

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  48.   piyush9086 says:
    Posted: 17 Jan 14

    Hii im lokig for good mane my year23

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  49.   duchess02 says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 14

    Very great advice especially when it's your first time dating.

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  50.   bwluver says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 14

    one step at a time

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