No One Else Mattered

Posted by Leticia, 26 Apr

Soon after meeting on our site, Alan and Stephanie realized their relationship was special. In fact, they felt so strongly for one another that taking the next step seemed natural.

“He proposed to me on one knee, at sunset, near the lake at a place that was very special to him, because it was the spot where he’d watched the sunset with his father for the last time before his father passed on,” Stephanie relates. “I was touched that he’d brought me to that spot to see the sunset! Then he got down on one knee and pulled out the beautiful ring. I didn’t see it coming... and I cried like a five year old. We’re talking snot bubbles! And of course I said yes.”

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What led up to this wonderful moment? Stephanie started dating online because “I wasn’t finding the type of guy I’d be interested in being in a long-term with, and I was curious as to what online dating had to offer. I’ve never limited myself to one race and I wanted to meet someone with the same relationship goals as mine.”

Still, she wasn’t certain this was the right move. “I was hopeful, but at the same time I was being careful, so I’d say I was confident but realistic,” explains Stephanie.

Alan knew he wanted to use online dating to meet women of other races and/or cultures. “Your site was not the first,” he tells us. “I tried other sites, but I wasn’t satisfied with them.”

What convinced him to post a profile? “I felt more comfortable trying to date outside of my race online, rather than approaching women in person,” Alan explains. He put his odds of success at “50/50, probably.”

By that point Stephanie had been with us for some time. “I’d been a member off and on for three years,” she recalls. “I’d closed my account for about a year, then went back on and met Alan two days later.”

Here’s what happened — she noticed a new member who’d joined a month earlier. The username was “Buckeye_Guy” and guess who the profile belonged to? “I reached out to Alan with a Flirt and he messaged me back,” says Stephanie. “And from that moment on, no one else mattered to either of us. He was the one, and I knew it.”

So what was so great about this guy, anyway? “He was hot!” laughs Stephanie. “Awesome blue eyes and he was a family man looking for a long-term relationship, like me. We thought alike in a lot of subjects, and we still do. We complete each other’s sentences.”

Alan is more concise about why he responded to “Amflady” (Stephanie). “Her picture!”

It wasn’t long before the duo decided to meet on the other side of the screen. As Stephanie tells it, “We got along so well, and we had talked for awhile on FaceTime. It was just time to meet.”

In person, Stephanie wasn’t disappointed. “OMG!! He’s even hotter in real life!” The photo of Stephanie that Alan saw didn’t lead him astray, either. “She’s beautiful!” he remembers thinking at the time.

They were so taken with each other’s good looks that nerves became a bit of an issue. “I was actually surprised by how nervous I was,” admits Stephanie. “I’ve never been nervous meeting new people, but with him, my heart was pumping and my hands were sweating.”

For Alan, the most surprising thing about their first date was “How well we clicked.” He was “110% sure” he wanted to see Stephanie again.

“We didn’t even want to say goodbye,” she declares. “I hated watching his car go down the street... so yeah — we’d already planned the next date before he left.”

Once they started dating in earnest, this couple-in-the-making found their attraction went more than skin deep. “I appreciate what a true gentleman he is,” notes Stephanie. Something Alan really values about Stephanie is “how loving and caring she is.”

Asked if they are each other’s type, they both say yes. “100% on point!” Stephanie says. “Completely similar” is Alan’s response.

The wheels turned quickly for these two and before long they were thinking marriage. Alan explains why he popped the question. “[This relationship] made me look forward to my second half of life. I’m looking forward to growing old with her.”

Stephanie is overjoyed to have met her match. “I’m happier now,” She says. “My soul is at peace because I finally found its mate.”

Now that they’ve found each other, the couple can concentrate on helping others along their own road toward love. “Hang in there,” Stephanie says, first and foremost. “I would get frustrated and delete my profile for a few months, all the time! But you gotta get back in there. Eventually you will find the one who is meant for you — just be patient, they always come when you need them the most and when you least expect them. Also if you want a long-term relationship, don’t get involved with anyone who just wants to be friends or just date. Only engage those who want the same type of relationship you do. And make sure you share the same interests and even the same (or similar) religion. Those issues are important for long-term compatibility.”

As usual, Alan’s words are few but direct. “Follow — and believe in — what you want. Don’t settle.”

Right now the only thing these two are settling on is a china pattern for the wedding.

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  1.   girls123 says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 16

    Love to each other and respect to each other

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  2.   kingger says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 16

    congratulations to u I want to be like dis

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  3.   kingger says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 16

    congratulations to u I want to be like dic

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  4.   oldtrail says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 16

    Wonderful . God bless them

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  5.   Doce28 says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 16

    Congratulations, encouraging. God bless your love!!!!!!

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  6.   Berrita says:
    Posted: 23 Aug 16

    Lucky girl

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  7.   Caramsea620 says:
    Posted: 19 Aug 16

    Lovely story

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  8.   Asiy says:
    Posted: 15 Aug 16

    From the story of Alan and Stephanie, we learn that goodness comes after every difficulties.Love truly comes when we need most. Best luck to all!!!

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  9.   Livestockt says:
    Posted: 12 Aug 16

    Lucky guy

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  10.   Zariy says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 16

    Wow so nice future

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  11. Posted: 28 Jul 16

    Beautiful story, lovely couple!

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  12.   Bonirpo says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 16

    Wow! Best of luck ...nyc couple

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  13.   dladladla says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 16

    I liked this one. Its fantastic and motivational

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  14.   BEAUTYBAKH says:
    Posted: 11 Jul 16

    Wooooow great It doesnt matter who the heart tells u to love age is just a number happy for her

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  15.   jieck-jieck says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 16

    Wow so nice future

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  16.   Pearlbeauty says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 16

    Wooow.. My future goals! Congratulations to the both of you ....and have a successful blessed marriage.

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  17.   Pearlbeauty says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 16

    Wooow.. My future goals! Congratulations to the both of you ....and have a successful blessed marriage.

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  18.   Lembeli says:
    Posted: 28 Jun 16

    Very courageous I still hoping to find my missing rib

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  19.   Steeljam says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 16

    You can meet enough of the wrong peeople that will make you want to stop trying but you can't let the wrong keep you from finding what's right

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  20.   Steeljam says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 16

    Very lovely and gives me faith in having patients.

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  21.   monyi says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 16

    wow sounds great!and really thats what am looking for...

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  22.   FunV says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 16

    That's what I'm looking for. I am not into playing games I'm older NOT old there is a difference Love the ocean camping ( not sure I can do the ground anymore) make me laugh and see what happens

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  23.   nyaendo says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 16

    Beautiful story.Just wish I meet my match

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  24.   charmingkay says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 16

    I hope for that outcome one day . I'm happy for the both of you .

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  25.   bakwangila says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 16

    Wow,am very Hapy for you people

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  26.   Mapera says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Am happy for both of you, By faith am da next

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  27.   Mapera says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Am happy for both of you, by faith am da next.

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  28.   johnsonn says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Wow

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  29.   Piller says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    I congratulate every happy couple of this site and I also wish they long and life time relationship,I also espect every to pray for God grace for me also.

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  30.   2tanny says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Cute couple indeed you are a match made in heaven.god bless you two

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  31.   Awanthi says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Still iam not find good person in my life. But one man bleamed me .

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  32.   rulafruit says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Congrats to all beautiful couples

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  33.   nellangisha says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Nice and encouraging story hope to meet my mr right as well God bless both of you

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    • Mbwee says:
      Posted: 14 Jun 16

      Hi Nellangisha, I trust all goes great with you wherever you are. Just wanted to say hi. Will communicate as the day unfolds. Have a fabulous day.

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    • nogobii says:
      Posted: 18 Jun 16

      Am looking for a miss of my type

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    • bonnyruku says:
      Posted: 24 Jul 16

      Hey can we chat . and get to know each other more???

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  34.   lucylou1us2 says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 16

    Congratulations to you both. Im still in search for love.

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  35.   bunel says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 16

    Cute couple indeed iope soon too

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  36.   HoNeYluV4U says:
    Posted: 09 Jun 16

    Beautiful couple so happy for you both. Many blessing.

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  37.   Tye118 says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 16

    Great story! God bless!

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  38.   amflady says:
    Posted: 23 May 16

    Hi it's Stephanie & Alan We're married now! We married this March in Vegas and we have a YouTube channel "Stephanie Loves Alan" where we Vlog about our relationship. www.youtube.com/StephanieLovesAlan

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  39. Posted: 14 May 16

    Great.

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  40.   Tenderbeni says:
    Posted: 14 May 16

    Such an Amazing love story. ...Nothing good comes without taking a risk.....taking a step of faith and believing Strongly that Love will make a way to find you.....Wishing u two more love and successes all the way...Wooh can't wait to share such good news here....

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  41.   NYGriego says:
    Posted: 13 May 16

    Great story!

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  42. Posted: 09 May 16

    How Cute.. Congratulations. This gives my hope

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  43. Posted: 08 May 16

    this was such a beautiful story. Congratulations

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  44.   mvula29 says:
    Posted: 03 May 16

    Wow congrats

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  45.   rafty says:
    Posted: 03 May 16

    Yeah we just have to hold on there, cool advice! Wish you the best happiness ever

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  46.   Honesty1028 says:
    Posted: 02 May 16

    Awwwwwwww, how beautiful.... Congratulations and I wish you both lifetime of Love and Memories!! Maybe I will not cancel my subscription after all...

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  47.   SwirlToni says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    That is wonderful. Beautiful couple. Congratulations to you both. Wishing you forever happiness!

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  48.   RedRubyan says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    Beautiful. .....

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  49.   coconut82 says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 16

    Great story

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  50.   jorancho says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 16

    Great story

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